Updated: Feb 17
Welcome to the sixth episode of the mental health series and today we will be talking about grieving and how to deal with it.
The thought of losing a loved one is one of the hardest things that you may have to experience but, in as much as we want to keep everyone around us, it is part of the life cycle of living things. This period of loss although already hard has become impossible to bear due to the COVID-19 pandemic. Unlike death in the past years, you most likely would now just hear your relative died and the hardest is that you cannot be by the side of your loved one when you know they need you the most. This type of death is very common in the States now. Losing a loved one can never be easy but we should also be able to cope and continue to live on without depreciating our mental health.
Here are some tips I believe will help in coping with the emotional pain that comes with death.
Acknowledging your feeling:
I personally think this is the first and most important step in changing something in your life. Without acknowledging what you are going through, you may never think you need help and may end up living in a delusional bubble. The death of a loved one is hard so don't concern yourself with how others are grieving instead, show your pain however it is and however you feel. In fact, I would recommend crying much as you can if you want to. Crying releases endorphins that will make you feel better, and you get to flush out toxins and stress hormones.
Beware of harmful thoughts:
As I mentioned, it's normal to grieve and take as much time as necessary for you to feel better. Yes, you. Feel better on your own terms and not because others are over it. However, as you are grieving, beware of harmful thoughts such as suicide, guilt, anger, and excessive fear. Thoughts like these just set you back and reopen the wound. They are also signs of declining mental health so be on the lookout.
Do Not Isolate:
I personally think that one of the mistakes people make is to isolate themselves in situations like these. In this period, I would say, call friends and speak to your group. They know you the best and can help you cope much better. Being alone might cause your health to deteriorate even more.
Yes, I know it may be difficult, but you still have to find a way to live on, either for your children or other loved ones. When you allow yourself to go through major distress, people who look up to you may go through something similar. If there is one thing I know about life, it's that there is someone who always gets their inspiration from you either directly or indirectly. So, you are a local superstar or role model you just may not know it. If you don't know how to relax, check out my post on Nature and try to flow with it. You can also do some Yoga if that will work for you. For those of you who are Christians, watch out for all these, read your Bible because all the answers to questions in this world are in there, and pray. Listen to more preaching that will uplift you and read gospel-inspired texts for development.
Once again, remember that you are loved, and others look up to you.
The loss of one does not mean drift into oblivion.
Always remember, it’s just you and us.